Its been a while, but these are too good not to share:
Eleanor: She came running into the kitchen with her 6th night of Hanukkah present unwrapped on the afternoon of the 4th night. I KNEW it had been quite!! She came in running and yelling “Mouse Mouse! Mom! MOuse!” The toy in her hand was a mickey mouse toy. (Matt did warn me that easy access to wrapped presents might not have been a great idea, he was right. really I am surprised it only happened once)
On Christmas at her Grandparents, she had no time to unwrap gifts. She rips open the paper enough to rip open the side of a clothing box. she reaches in and pulls out a Minnie Mouse tshirt and sweatshirt set. She was very pleased!
Dorothy: she moved all the Hanukkah presents over so Santa could come through our fire place. All the Hanukkah presents are on the hearth of our fireplace and each night we open the gift designated for that night. this year since Christmas and Hanukkah coincided, we had everything out at once. Dorothy was getting ready for Santa Christmas eve and we where talking about where he would come in to the house and where to leave him his snack… and she said if Santa came through the fire place he would walk on the presents. So she moved them over out of his way…
Dorothy and Eleanor are starting to play together. They interact with each other, and are starting to establish a sister dynamic that will last the rest of their lives. Its a wonderful bond, I hope it stays strong.
This evening the girls where sitting on the floor playing. We had just cleaned up, Dorothy was a great helper, every toy I gave her she put away. She even helped me vacuum, haha (she used the little hand-held one that we use on our car). After vacuuming Dorothy sits down with Ellie and puts a blanket over their heads making a tent! I hear giggles coming from under the tent… LOVED IT!
This tent game comes down the generations, I played “tent” under the covers with my Zaddie (grandfather) and my mom plays it with the girls when she watches them. Tonight Matt and I played tent with the girls. It was so much fun, lol. In whispers Dorothy told us about the weather outside of the tent (something she does with my mom I think) and that our cat Fanny wasn’t in the tent and was getting cold out there. I love the imagination on this kid! She learns so fast!
It was so cute to see Dorothy start playing with Ellie, and then invite Matt and me to join in.
Over the long holiday weekend, we did a lot of schlepping with the girls. We had dinner with my family 1 night, and spent 2 days with Matt’s parents and then at his grandparents house. There was a lot of driving involved. Eleanor is not a great passenger. She pretty much hates the car. Dorothy doesn’t mind the car, but gets car sick and so it stresses me and Matt out. These longer car rides (longest being 1 hour 15 min, this weekend) are hard. I look ahead to them with dread. Often we can’t get between my parent’s home and our place without stopping 1 or 2 times, and that’s only a 10 minuet drive!!
Now to the point: Eleanor was having a particularly tough time in the car the other night on our way home. She was not calming down with just the pacifier. She had no interest in toys or anything else.
Dorothy then began to sing! She started to sing our good night song all on her own. She just knew what to do to calm Eleanor down. I started to sing with her. Sometimes our children just know/remember what works before we do. It was wonderful. Dorothy soothed Eleanor to sleep with my help. I truly love those moments.
Last night was bath night for both Dorothy and Ellie. Matt sat with Dorothy while she was in the bath. Ellie sat on his lap and watched Dorothy play in the tub. Ellie started to laugh when Dorothy splashed. So Dorothy began to splash a lot! Ellie laughed and laughed, belly roll kind of laugh. I’ve never heard a baby laugh quite like that. Dorothy has such a different laugh, she has so many too! Ellie giggles a lot, sometimes laughs. I wish I had taken a video. It’s still a nice memory of the girls laughing and interacting with each other!
Ellie is “crawling” on her back, going backwards. She can move from one end of the crib to the other. For a long time now she can spin around and face another direction on her back. I do not remember if Dorothy ever did this, but if she did she was way older than 4 months. Ellie’s legs are just so strong! Ellie’s babysitter (who has a baby 1 week older) keeps remarking how surprised she is at the strength in her legs. Ellie figured out that she can turn the mobile on and off by kicking the colorful buttons. She spent almost 20 minutes entertaining herself kicking it on and then off, getting a different song each time. She laughed each time it started again, and talked to the hanging guys going around and around.
Her ability to hold her head up is also remarkable. She has been able to hold her head up for months. I think it’s so she can keep an eye on whats going on with Dorothy. She loves to watch Dorothy play and run around with her friends.
Ellie also rolls over now (has for a few weeks). She gets frustrated though when she rolls from her back to her belly. She rolls on to her belly and the view of the world changes for her. On the play mat, she will roll over and after a few minutes she starts to get unhappy. She hasn’t figured out how to really control rolling over from her belly to her back. She has done it but I think it was involuntary. Ellie likes to look up and kick her hanging toys, she can see whats going on around her. When she rolls over she is stuck having to work harder to see, and she has to take a short break (less than 30 seconds) to put her head down and rest her neck. While she is on her belly, she sometime inches backwards, but I think that is also involuntary. She looks at me as if to say, help me out and turn me over already! Shes moving so much faster than I remember Dorothy doing. I kind of wanted to keep her as much of a baby as possible, so that I could really enjoy her babyhood. She had other ideas, and like Dorothy, Ellie runs the show, and I’m just happy to participate.
Sometimes I find that l like my children best when they are sleeping. They are peaceful and quite and look so pleasant. The other morning Dorothy climbed into my bed, as she does just about every day. She lied down, and fell asleep on Matt’s side of the bed. I brought Ellie to the bed to nurse, and we fell asleep to. When I woke up Dorothy and Ellie had their heads together and both were fast asleep. It was so cute!
This morning Eleanor woke me up with a surprise, an exploding diaper… this was the 3rd exploding diaper in as many days. After putting her on the bed, surrounded by pillows so she couldn’t go anywhere, I started to change her sheets. When I cam back into the room Eleanor had fallen back asleep toes in her mouth!
The girls often end up in our bed. Dorothy crawls in during the early morning hours, and Ellie and I often both fall asleep at some point during nursing. Our little bed (only a full size) gets very crowded. I can’t wait until we buy a house and then eventually buy a new bed, maybe a King size just to make up for the crowded one we have now. But by then our kids won’t be crawling n anymore. It will be so big Matt and I won’t be able to find each other… I’ll miss him, or maybe then his snoring won’t bother me so much since he’ll be so far away.
It’s funny how the way you see the world can change instantly. With the birth of Eleanor, the way I saw Dorothy changed. Dorothy took on a new look, she went from being this tiny child to me to being so big! She didn’t really change but my interpretation of her did. She was suddenly heavy to lift, and so active in a way I didn’t realize before. She is so busy, and talks so much! Eleanor is a sleepy baby, very relaxed. Nothing about Dorothy really changed but I changed. I took on a new perspective, I had her sister to compare her with.
I know many parents feel anxiety over having to split their time between two children before or once the second child arrives. I was no different, and still worry about giving each one enough attention. I worry that because Eleanore is so small and un-demanding with my time and attention I ignore her. Once those feelings and thoughts hit I give her my full on attention. Which leaves me to worry about leaving Dorothy hanging. She was so used to being the center of my world and now that she’s not, I worry she will suffer in some way.
I am aware that these feelings will even out as we all get settled in (which has been made harder over the last 3 weeks due to my being sick). I am also aware that my hormones are affecting me significantly. The knowledge of these additional factors should reassure me that everything is fine and normal. But the irrational side of my mind takes over more often than not.
As of this moment in time though, with both girls fast asleep, safe and happy, I feel peace, which is the feeling I will hold on to when my irrational fears pop up.